Wednesday, 29 August 2012

Things I am loving

The way Ezra follows us round going "Hotter... Hotter... Hotter" when we are looking for something we have misplaced.

Baby knits (& crochet)

Drawing

Playing hairdressers

Phoebe's dance shows in the living room

Sunshine

Phoebe telling me of her plan to marry a prince.

Ezra telling Phoebe he is going to marry her.

Anticipation of a new resource - a much reduced interactive globe!

Packaging up a parcel for a friend in the hope of bringing a smile

A certain little boy thinking it is the funniest thing ever to copy me... and joke about doing a poo in the cupboards!

Monday, 27 August 2012

Making it Real

Thank you all for your kind comments on my last post. On Thursday evening our house went on to Rightmove and the sign went up outside yesterday. We requested a delay so we could tell our neighbours first. It now seems real!
I feel very sure now it is the right thing to do. Really hoping we can see more of Grandma and Grandpa and Auntie Nic, Uncle John and Rocco. It's been a long time. And also a very good friend of mine and her little girl, who I am hoping will be a much bigger part of our lives.
Typically we seem to have fallen victim to "the house seller's curse" as my sister called it, and broken a window! Russ was mowing and a stone flicked up and hit the French doors. It's boarded up and Russ will call a glazier this morning.
We are hoping to get our first viewings this week. Fingers crossed!

Saturday, 25 August 2012

The (New) Plan

So after my last heartfelt post about wanting to move and nest and feeling all unsettled and conflicted an answer came.

Thank you to everyone who left me lovely messages or who supported me in person. I really appreciated the love.

In a conversation with my mum she mentioned a house was for sale again near them, in my home town. This was not the plan. We were moving to the coast. But I just instantly wanted that house!

So I reflected on my feelings and talked to Russ. He didn't argue or try to dissuade me, as he has done in the past (in a loving and wanting the best thing for all of us kind of way). He listened and understood and agreed.

We agreed that living here is not working and that although we have a lovely house and garden our children are missing out socially by living in a pretty isolated place with no cohesive home education community. The local group fell apart and although a couple of champions are rebuilding it we are woefully short on numbers at present. By moving I know I am contributing to that, so I'm sorry, but I know my friends understand.

We had been trying to relocate to the south coast but the jobs had been very few and far between and we had heard nothing on the few Russ found and applied for. Presumably because of the fabulous locations and current economic climate there were just a huge huge number of applications. So we could choose to wait (and wait) for the right job to come along but in the meantime myself and the children were going to continue being isolated (we also have no family near and the area is not good for facilities/trips out).

So after a lot of thought we made a new plan. We called an estate agent we have had out before and our house is now on the market. We are hoping to move back to my home town in Hertfordshire - ideally before Christmas!

Russ will still be able to keep his job. He will have to commute 50 minutes each way, but he can adjust his hours slightly to suit travel better, and he has done this commute before. Also he would be able to apply for other jobs closer to home at his leisure, without the rush and pressure. It's not ideal but it is a compromise to remedy our current situation, which was feeling dire.

The other tricky thing about moving is we will have to downsize our house drastically. I don't have a huge problem with this as I struggle to keep on top of housework here and the garden constantly needs work. I actually love the idea of a more manageable house and garden. But... I do think it is harder living in small spaces when you are a home educating family. Resources take up space. Projects take up space. So we will have to be very creative about storage, as well as how we use the space and what we really need to keep. I am up for the challenge, but not especially looking forward to sorting through and condensing everything. Our new house will be about half the size (literally).

So on to the positives...

We will be near my parents, brother, and extended family.

We will be joining a thriving and busy home education community, including my friend Sam and her children.

We will be living in a town with many parks, woodlands, cycle tracks and amenities.

There are good public transport links so it will be easier and cheaper to get around (both within the town and to other towns and villages nearby, and to London).

We will have more frequent play dates and guests in our home, and make more friends.

I will feel more settled and confident.

We will be closer to Russ' family, and my sister and brother in law.

When I have time to start driving lessons again I will know the area well, which will take some stress out of it.


So there you are! Our new plan. :)

I am feeling really excited about the change, though I have a few really good friends here I will miss a huge amount! But I am reminding myself they will only be an hour away and we can always come back up to visit.

We are currently frantically cleaning, decluttering and making the house look presentable in preparation for viewings. I am really hoping for a quick sale as I so want to be moved by Christmas. But in reality I know it could take a while. Our house is quite big and some will love it but some might be put off by maintaining the garden. Or any number of other things, I guess. We are keeping our fingers crossed though.

Hopefully we will begin the new year with a fresh start! :)

** By the way, we haven't forgotten we are having a baby in October, but have confidence it will all fall into place! ;) **

A day with Charlie and Nate

We had a lovely time - endless imaginative games, giant bubbles, garden fun, water, marbles, cuddling guinea pigs, games and puzzles.
Thank you for having us!

Home Ed Meet Up at Howard Park

On Wednesday we spent the afternoon at a park with our friends Sam, Charlie and Nate and other people from Herts Home Ed group. It was nearly an hour south of us but we went to stay with Nanny and Grandad as they live near by. It was really nice to meet some new people (they were very very nice) and Phoebe and Ezra loved seeing Charlie and Nate and playing in a new place. The park itself was fantastic!
There was a brief shower or two but mostly gorgeous sunshine. A lovely summer's day! :)

At the park

Face Painting

Yes - I am a brave woman!

But I did have the cutest face painters ever!

Happy Things

New to me tie dyed baby clothes - thanks to a lovely mama from the GP forum.

Daddy tickles

Ezra pictures (a toucan and a penguin; a snail)

Phoebe pictures (a horse in long grass)

Iced chai latte

A helper making the bed (Ezra's name means helper :)

The promise of crazy funky baby handknits from my sister!

Tidying the house for an estate agent viewing!

Smiles!

** Apologies for the weird photo order. It appears the blogger app makes up the order however it sees fit! **




Mama Art Day

This was so good for my soul. Last weekend I enjoyed the best part of a day with just two close friends. No children. This is the most rare occurrence. First time ever. We talked, and made art for my "birthing room" and went out to lunch - Mexican, and cocktails (or mocktail in my case - virgin colada! Yum!). It was really lovely and I want to say a big thank you to my husband (and theirs) for making it happen! :)